Coping with OCD During the Holidays

Many people look forward to the holiday season – the parties, traveling to see friends and family, and the special traditions. But for others, this time of year is full of emotional triggers, changes in routine, and significant stress. If you live with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), the holidays can feel especially overwhelming.

Why the Holidays Can Be So Hard When You Have OCD

OCD is already exhausting on a regular day. Add travel, social expectations, money worries, and disrupted routines, and it’s no surprise that OCD symptoms often spike during the holidays. Common holiday OCD worries and fears can include:

• Worrying about candles, decorations, or appliances being left on
• Fears about the house being robbed or catching fire while you’re away
• Anxiety about mess, clutter, and the chaos of hosting guests
• Fear of having a panic attack while traveling (like on a crowded plane or bus)
• Having a panic attack while traveling (i.e., on a crowded bus or plane)
• Stress about having access to a clean bathroom at parties or when traveling
• Contamination fears about food at holiday gatherings
• Worries that you might contaminate food and make others sick
• Obsessing over the status of relationships with friends and family
• Pressure to create perfect holiday memories for everyone
• Anxiety about buying the “right” or thoughtful gift each person

These worries can lead to compulsions like checking, cleaning, reassurance-seeking, or avoiding situations altogether — all of which can steal joy from the season.

The Good News: OCD Doesn’t Have to Hijack Your Holidays

While you can’t control every trigger, you can take steps to reduce OCS’s impact and support your mental health during this time of year. Below are practical, evidence-based ways to cope with ICO during the holidays.

Protect Your Basics: Sleep, Food, and Movement

The holidays are notorious for late nights, skipped meals, extra sugar, and more alcohol than usual. Those changes can leave you tired, dehydrated, and more vulnerable to anxiety and OCD spikes. As much as possible, try to:

• Maintain your regular sleep, eating, and exercise habits
• Limit alcohol and make sure to hydrate
• Avoid going too long without food
• Keep some kind of gentle movement in your day (walking, stretching, yoga)

These simple habits help keep your nervous system more regulated, which can make OCD symptoms easier to manage.

Don’t isolate yourself – Even If You Want To.

When OCD symptoms flare up, it can be tempting to avoid people and stay home where you feel more “in control.” But isolation usually increases anxiety and depression over time. Instead:

• Say “yes” to at least a few invitations, even if you’re nervous
• Reach out to a supportive friend or family member and let them know what you’re dealing with
• Ask someone you trust to be your “anchor” at gatherings so you have a plan if anxiety spikes
• Consider joining a local or online OCD support group, so you feel less alone with what you’re experiencing
  

Social support is a key part of recovery from any mental health condition, including OCD.

Keep up with your OCD treatment (ERP & Therapy)

During the holidays, it’s easy to skip appointments because your calendar is full. But this is actually one of the most important times to stay consistent with treatment. If you’re already in ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) treatment, recommitting during the holiday season can:

• Prevent symptoms from getting worse
• Help you face specific holiday-related triggers (travel, germs, food, family interactions)\
• Give you structured support as you work on reducing compulsions

Your therapist can help you create a holiday-specific ERP plan so OCD interferes less with your ability to enjoy this time of year.

Practice your coping skills on purpose.

Most people with OCD learn coping tools in therapy — but when anxiety spikes, it’s easy to forget them or feel too overwhelmed to use them. Try:

• Writing your coping skills on a note in your phone or on an index card you keep with you
• Practicing them before big events (like travel days or parties), not just when you’re already panicking
• Role-playing with your therapist situations you expect to be tough (like saying no to reassurance or resisting a checking compulsion)

If you have a hard time remembering what to do in the moment, work with your therapist to make a simple, step-by-step plan for common scenarios: “If ___ happens, I’ll try ___ first.”

Let go of holiday perfectionism

OCD and perfectionism love each other — especially around the holidays. You might feel pressure to:

• Host the perfect gathering
• Find the perfect gift
• Have the perfect mood or energy level
• Create perfect memories for your kids, partner, or family

But perfectionism usually increases stress, guilt, and self-criticism — all of which can fuel OCD. Instead, try to:

• Aim for “good enough” instead of perfect
• Choose a few traditions that genuinely matter to you and let the others go this year
• Notice when you’re comparing yourself to others (or to an unrealistic ideal) and gently redirect your focus to what is going well

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Plan ahead for travel, germs, and food

OCD often latches onto to topics that are front and center during the holidays: travel, contamination, food safety, and health. Some ways to support yourself:

• If contamination is a trigger:
  • Decide beforehand how often you’ll allow yourself to wash your hands or use sanitizer.
  • Ask your therapist to help you design ERP-style guidelines so you don’t fall into compulsive washing.
  • Writing your coping skills on a note in your phone or on an index card you keep with you
• If you worry about food poisoning or making others sick:
  • Identify a few reasonable safety checks (like cooking food to recommended temperatures) and stop after those.
  • Resist checking the same thing over and over.
• If travel spikes your anxiety:
  • Use grounding skills (breathing, naming 5 things you see/hear/feel) on planes or in crowded places
  • Create a playlist, podcast list, or calming activities specifically for travel days

Thoughtful planning lets you honor your mental health without letting OCD completely dictate your choices.

Get “zen” in small, doable ways

You don’t have to meditate for an hour a day to feel a difference. Small practices that help you reconnect to the present moment and treat yourself with kindness can be powerful. You might try:

• A 5-minute mindfulness or breathing exercise before bed or an event
• A simple daily gratitude practice (writing down 1-3 things you’re glad for each day)
• Short self-compassion practices, like talking to yourself the way you’d talk to a friend in the same situation

Refocusing on your growth and strengths – not just on what feels hard – can improve your overall state of mind during the holiday season.

When to Consider Extra Support for OCD During the Holidays 

If your OCD symptoms are:

• Making it hard to work, parent, or keep up with daily responsibilities
• Causing you to avoid people, places, or activities you usually enjoy
• Taking up hours of your day with rituals, checking, or mental compulsions
• Leaving you feeling hopeless, ashamed, or burned out

… you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through the holidays alone. Working with an OCD specialist can help you:

• Understand what’s happening in your brain and body
• Learn ERP and other tools that actually reduce OCD over time
• Create a plan tailored specifically for your life, values, and holiday stressors 

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If you feel that you may need additional support so you can finally start to enjoy the holidays again, we’re here to help.

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